Thursday, February 14, 2008

Fairy Tales;

Little girls are raised on fairy tales, princesses, and the perfect prince. We play with dolls to act out our future wedding days. We create our own versions of a perfect world, of life with home, husband, and children. No matter how logical a girl might grow up to be, she still believes in her "happily ever after".

Fairy tales do not tell children that the "happily ever after" takes hard work, commitment, and communication. That it takes mutual respect, trust, and love. It does not occur to children, that the "happily ever after" is not something that is given to a couple after the "I do's", but something that is earned years later.

My life has certainly not unfolded according to the script my dolls would act out. The reason why is simply because, there are some things even children do not dare to dream. I did not have the ability to image the life, the experiences , or the fortune that I have had. Simply put, the life I have is beyond my dreams.

The main reason my life has become what it is, is because of my husband. Ben does not just love me, he cherishes me. I know that in any situation, he will always put me first. He never yells, he is never judgmental. He is always considerate, and understanding. He can tell what I am thinking by the way I move my toes. When we get mad at each other, we calm down and talk it out. We have never had a fight. He knows how to make me smile, he knows how to make me laugh. He knows what I need, and always provides it for me.

He encourages me to try things I am afraid of. If I can not do it on my own, I know will be there holding my hand, trying it with me. It is because of Ben that I realized how strong and self reliant I am. That the word is not a scary place, and that I am safe in it.

It will be years before the status of my "happily ever after" is known. Until then, I can fall asleep each night in the arms of my handsome prince.

Saturday, February 02, 2008

Walking on Ice;

Around Oslo, there are no laws about shoveling the sidewalks of homes or businesses. Instead gravel is laid on top of the ice. This is usually enough to keep people from slipping, but as the gravel is walked on, it becomes sparse in some spots. This leave large sections of black, or thick ice free to be slipped on. The answer to this? People know how to walk on ice with out slipping.

I have learned this skill, but every now and then I hit some black ice, or the ice is on a slope, or I am just not paying attention, and I slip. Very few times have I fallen to the ground, and I have never been hurt more then a bruise. I do get nervous when I am not walking alone. Most of the guys at Trolltech walk very fast, and I worry about trying to keep up with them and falling on ice. So the other day I bought some "ice shoes" (I am just calling them that. It is not their proper name).

My "ice shoes" are rubber skeletons that are pulled around and under my own shoes. They have a thin metal coil that surrounds the rubber beneath the shoe. The metal coils grab the ice as I walk on it, and prevents slipping. You can even run on ice wearing them. A draw back is that they are very hard to walk with on tile or very smooth floors, however they are very easy to remove.

Even though these "shoes" are meant for the elderly, and hikers, I find them very useful and fun to use.